5 SIGNS YOU ARE THE BAD ROOMMATE



I know most of us have been at this point where we just wish we never had to share the room/apartment and we are just one step from killing our roommates. I understand, I have been there and still in the same situation. Normally, I would have started ranting and all but I had a discussion with someone the other day and we talked about people not knowing they are doing the bad things they are doing and I feel I should list some thing out maybe it would help us understand how to be better.

1) DO YOU CONSIDER YOUR ROOMMATE: I get it, you did not leave your father's house to come and be controlled in your own house, Yes, you will wash the plates but not now,you are tired. You will arrange the room but when you wake up WITHOUT CONSIDERING YOUR ROOMMATE. What if your roommate is coming home with a friend? what if your roommate also want to use the pot. Whenever you feel like being selfish, remember you have a roommate. When you are finally alone,you can be the slob you are meant to be.



2) FRIENDS OVER: You need to let your friends know that you are not the exclusive owner of the house and respect should be given to your roommate. Your roommate/housemate is female and some of your male friends have no boundary, as they are coming out of the kitchen, they are entering the bathroom and just moving everywhere,when they are suppose to be in your ROOM. please not everybody is comfortable with strangers seeing them in their state of undress. Even If your friend must see you everyday at least do not making it uncomfortable for your roommate.

3) BOUNDARIES: Aunty, I am your roommate not your friend,not your sister, when you borrow from me please return, please do not take my things without letting me know, please when I flare up,do not act surprise and say shii like, I thought we were closer than this, no we are not. The boundaries should be respected.  At least when you use my things to a certain level, you let it be and not use it all the way to the end with me. hanhan


4) COMMUNICATION: Without communication, relationships  will break down, even roommate/housemate relationship, Therefore we have to talk to each other about what we feel is wrong in the house, our boundaries, what we can take and not take and we would live better.

5) DO YOU CLEAN UP AFTER YOURSELF: I get it, really I do, washing plate is not your strong suit fine, sweeping is not for you cause if you bend your back will break, fine. Bathroom,you will not wash because you get irritated on time . The question is what can you do?? Your roommate cannot do everything ,therefore you need to pick something you are really good at and let your impact show. One time when I was staying with someone, I always made sure I washed all the dishes in the sink,regardless If I used it or not. I noticed the amount of dishes in the sink started increasing that was when I stopped and started washing just mine. Because your roommate is not complaining does not make it right.


Like I said in the beginning of this write up, you might not know the bad things you are doing to your roommate/housemate therefore once in a while, you can talk to the person about the living condition or pull a Sheldon Cooper by having the ROOMMATE AGREEMENT.

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3 comments:

  1. SO TRUEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE.............................NICE, THE FACT YOU ADDED THEY MAY NOT KNOW HOW ANNOYING THEY ARE.................... KEEP WRITING

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  2. SO TRUEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE.............................NICE, THE FACT YOU ADDED THEY MAY NOT KNOW HOW ANNOYING THEY ARE.................... KEEP WRITING

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  3. Understanding is key to everything. To be a good roommate,you must remember to consider the other person in everything you do.

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